Anna Borowski MBACP
Counsellor
Chelmsford
Essex
Current Availability:
Chelmsford - Limited availability Mondays, Tuesdays & Thursdays
Have you spent so long adapting to other people's expectations that you've lost sight of yourself?
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you've put everyone else's needs above your own
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you're masking neurodivergence
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you're navigating a major life transition
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you're trying to work out who you are now that life looks different
There's no right way to do therapy. Every person comes with a different story and a unique way of experiencing the world. Rather than expecting you to fit into a particular approach, we can shape our work around what helps you think, reflect, process and feel most comfortable.
Together we'll create a space where you can begin to understand yourself with curiosity, compassion and honesty.
Anna Borowski Counselling
Does this sound familiar?
Have you reached a point in your life where you're asking yourself:
Who am I beneath everything I've had to be?
Many of the people I work with have spent years adapting to the needs, expectations or emotions of others. They often appear quite capable on the outside while in private they feel exhausted, disconnected or unsure of who they really are.
You might recognise yourself if:
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You've spent much of your life putting other people's needs before your own
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Saying no leaves you feeling guilty or selfish
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You find yourself people-pleasing, avoiding conflict or second guessing your decisions
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You're navigating a significant life transition and questioning what comes next
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You're neurodivergent, exploring whether you might be neurodivergent or feel you've spent years masking parts of yourself just to fit in
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You're beginning to notice patterns in your relationships that no longer feel healthy or sustainable
For some people these patterns began in childhood. You may have grown up with emotionally immature, highly critical or unpredictable parents or in a family where your role was to keep the peace, meet other people's needs or stay quiet to avoid conflict. These ways of coping often made sense at the time but they can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself as an adult.
Therapy can help you understand how your experiences have shaped you, find compassion for the parts of yourself that have worked so hard to cope and gradually reconnect with the person beneath those adaptations.
Together, we can create a space where you can explore all of this at a pace that feels right for you.
Hi, I'm Anna...
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10 years of clinical experience
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A warm, human approach where our relationship is central to the work
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Neuro-affirming therapy that adapts to you
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Dreamwork and creative interventions available if they feel helpful
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Honest conversations and genuine curiosity
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Focus on helping you connect with who you authentically are
If you've found your way here, there's a good chance something on the homepage resonated with you. Perhaps you've spent years adapting to other people's expectations, masking parts of yourself or wondering why life seems much harder for you than it does for everyone else.
My role is to help you become curious about the experiences that have shaped you, make sense of the patterns that keep repeating and reconnect with parts of yourself that may have been hidden along the way.
My work is rooted in psychodynamic counselling where we explore what's happening in the present alongside how earlier experiences continue to influence your life today. While that might sound quite formal, therapy with me is very human. We might laugh together, sit quietly with difficult emotions, celebrate your progress or gently challenge patterns that are not helping you.
I believe the relationship we build together is at the heart of meaningful therapy.
Over the past ten years, I have completed almost 2,000 clinical hours helping adults better understand themselves and the patterns that shape their lives.
Increasingly I have found myself working with neurodivergent adults and people exploring if they might be neurodivergent. My approach is neuro-affirming meaning I am able to adapt therapy around you rather than expecting you to adapt to therapy.
As well as in-person therapy, I also develop workshops and creative resources that explore dreams, identity, creativity and emotional wellbeing. I believe that talking isn't the only way we come to understand ourselves and for some people, creative exercises or dream exploration can open up new ways of thinking and feeling.
I'm a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and work within their Ethical Framework ensuring our work together is grounded in professionalism, compassion and respect.
Next Steps
If what you've read here resonates with you, you might be wondering what happens next. Here's where we begin:
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Get in touch: Use the contact form to send me a message. You don't need to know exactly what to say, just a few lines about what's bringing you here is enough. I'll reply as soon as I can.
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Book a free, no obligation 20-minute phone or video call: We'll talk about what is going on for you and how I work. It's a chance to ask any questions and get a feel for whether this space feels right for you. There's no pressure, it's just a chat.
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Come in for a 50 minute consultation: If you decide to go ahead, we'll book an initial in-person session. This is a deeper space to talk about your reasons for seeking therapy and to explore whether on-going sessions might be helpful. It's also a chance for us to meet and see how it feels to work in the room.